We recently had a discussion on Christian Relationships in bible study. We wanted to present all our members with the multiple scenarios that could actually happen and we came to agreements on the best possible solutions. So our question to you is – as a Christian – “What Would You Do?”
Scenario #1: A close friend of yours, Alex, asks you for a favor. Alex needs you to drive him to a job interview tomorrow at 10am. You know he has been looking for work for a while and this is his only job opportunity. But there is a problem. Your shift at work starts at 10:30AM tomorrow. You have been late to work twice this year and your supervisor has already scolded you about being on time. However, Alex expresses to you that he needs you to come through and do him this favor. As a Christian, what do you do?
Scenario #2: Today Kendra, your classmate in Anatomy, invites you to a tutoring session. You do not know Kendra very well, but you do know that you are failing this class. And last week, you agreed to play a basketball game with Marcus, your best friend the same day that the tutoring is. When Marcus calls you tonight to confirm your game with him, what would you tell him?
Scenario #3: You are married with three kids. During dinner tonight, your daughter, Lisa, and your spouse get into an argument about her grades in school. Frustrated, Lisa yells at your spouse, curses at you and goes to her room. She proceeds to slam the door and play loud music. Your spouse is upset. As a Christian, what do you do?
Scenario #4: You are happily married and have two kids. The children constantly argue, bicker and fight. You have trained and taught them biblical values but the tension does not stop. How do you two, as parents, deal with sibling rivalry?
Scenario #5: Ladies: You just met the man of your dreams, Morris! You’ve been praying about who your husband is and once Morris stepped to you, you figured this was the one. About 3 months have gone by and you are still having those butterflies fluttering in your stomach. But Morris, being honest, reveals to you that he has in incurable STD (sexually transmitted disease). As a woman of faith, what do you do?
Scenario #6: Men: You just met the woman you have been searching for. Her name is Venetta! You’ve been praying for your future wife and you are faithful that Venetta is the woman whom you are to marry. You even starting looking the engagement ring. About 3 months have gone by and you are still believing that God has blessed you with this wonderful lady. But Venetta, being compassionate and gentle, reveals to you that she has in incurable STD (sexually transmitted disease). As a man of God, what do you do?
Scenario #7 You are a pretty established person and have great stability. You have a savings account. But now you are married. Once you are married, should you share the account with your spouse, or no? Explain.
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Scenario 1 …I would drop him off early at the interview so that I can get to work on time.
Scenario 2…I would go to my tutoring session and I would tell my friend that we can play ball later.
Scenario 3…I would go and talk with my daughter and I would come back and speak further with my husband about the situation. I would also let her know that she was out of line and I would calmly speak with her to find out what her problem is.
Scenario 4…I would continuously enforce that the behavior would not be tolerated. I would have them play a game about what they like about each other. I would also sit them down and ask them why do they bicker so much with each other. I would try to get to the root of the problem, as well as pray about it.
Scenario 5…If I found out that he had an STD, it would be over and I wouldn’t look back.
Scenario 7…I believe that the account should be shared because he is my husband. What’s his is mine and what’s mine is his.
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Scen 1: I totally agree with you, members of bible study even went beyond that and said they would let him borrow the car. Both examples are great acts of sacrifice
Scen 2: I said that I would go to the game and deal with my studying later, because I gave Marcus my word to play ball with him. Priorities are important, and Marcus came first. But studying is definitely crucial. So if Marcus is a true friend, he would understand if I went the other route.
Scen 3: Members of bible study said they would talk to the spouse first since he/she is heated and upset, then speak to the daughter. And I totally agree with what you said about finding the root of the problem. She may be going through something or dealing with internal issues. and as parents, we would have to be gracious and merciful. At the same time reprimand the child for the rudeness at the dinner table.
Scen 4: Prayer, i agree! Members of the study suggested that the parents should alter their training and raising of both children. All children are different so they should be taught differently. Not taught different things but taught in a different way. We cant be so tough to some kids as we can others. and some kids don’t alone time with the parents and some can cope without that alone time. So biblically raising the kids according to their personality and character traits is a good idea. Your game idea is awesome! I wouldve never thought of that. Wow.
Scen 5&6: Can I ask you a question? Im just wondering: why would you end the relationship and never look back?
I saw the situation as a great opportunity to genuinely love the person. Also I believe that God is a healer. I suggested that much prayer would be needed on our part before making a decision to be committed to the person. But i would like to know why you came to your conclusion?
Scen 7: When folks get married they are one flesh, which means they share flesh. they share spirit. they share things untangible and tangible. So this was a given. Agree with you 100%
For #2, I would explain the situation to my friend and ask can we still play ball, but later. I do believe we should keep our word but in this case, I believe studying is more important. You can’t retake a test and if he’s a good friend, he should be understanding of it.
For #4, I would still continue teaching my children Biblical values, perhaps by teaching them verses which directly address the problems they are creating. I’d also spend a lot of time in prayer with my spouse and then in prayer as a family.
For #5, I would pray to God and ask to receive confirmation if this person is truly with whom he desires me to be. If yes, I would spend much time in prayer with my spouse and at my church, we have Healing Rooms where we pray and lay hands on those with all sorts of ailments. I’d ask my partner if he is willing to go.
For #7, When I get married, if I ever do, I intend on having an account with my husband, but also one separate from him. If he decided to do the same in having his own account separate from me I wouldn’t mind at all — so long as we do have one bank account together.
“we have Healing Rooms where we pray and lay hands on those with all sorts of ailments. I’d ask my partner if he is willing to go.” Wow. That is awesome Ashley! What a bright mind you have. God is a healer for sure
And it is interesting that you said A joint and separate account. My guess is that balances things out. Cool deal!